This is my son, Johnny. Now, I did not give birth to him. He has an Angel Momma. I did watch him take his first steps and hear him speak his first words and I love him ever so much. Johnny has a special story that he and I will be telling. I wish I had seen him before he was shipped off to his “dad’s” parent’s house way back when. You see his black eyes in his first two baby pictures? Those were neither the first bruises nor the last that his “dad” inflicted on him. See, His “dad” is a Narcissistic Sociopath. People like that place roles on the children in the home. Johnny’s role was the Scapegoat. The following defines scapegoating and how Johnny was treated in the home with the encouragement of his “dad”. Why? I have a theory. I will tell you all about it during the telling of Johnny’s story. This is enough for the moment. There is so much more and still many questions that we, Johnny and I, would like answered. Johnny deserves answers. Johnny did not deserve to be beaten so badly and so often. Who gives a baby a black eye? My Narcissistic Sociopathic Ex-Husband does without even blinking an eye.
I will be laying it all out. Why John Jaramillo detests Johnny so much, what John Jaramillo robbed Johnny from not just Johnny, but a nice group of people and how resilient Johnny is in overcoming such an abusive past. There are parts of this story that are sick and twisted. I love you Johnny. Be sure to let me know if I should add or change anything. ❤ We will go slow. One piece at a time. This is a pretty good introduction, you think? You are amazing. Don’t ever forget that. You are none of those things he said you were. He was projecting himself onto you. That means he saw you as a mirror and everything he said was meant for himself. He simply is incapable of accepting criticism, blame, or anything else that shows who he really is.
“Scapegoating is a serious family dysfunctional problem with one member of the family or a social group being blamed for small things, picked on and constantly put down. In scapegoating, one of the authority figures has made a decision that somebody in the family has to be the bad guy. The mother or father makes one child bad and then looks for things (sometimes real, but most often imagined) that are wrong.” (Lynn Namaka, “Scapegoating“)
Often, the emotional child abuser will encourage, through his or her actions and treatment of the scapegoat, the other children to also pick on the scapegoat, so that the scapegoat has no allies in the family. ~ The Invisible Scar
Narcissistic Sociopaths believe they are unique, yet they are all the same. They all have the same traits and patterns of behavior. John Jaramillo has every single trait of the Narcissistic Sociopath including:
Lack of remorse or guilt. A lack of feelings or concern for the losses, pain, and suffering of victims; a tendency to be unconcerned, dispassionate, coldhearted, and unempathic. This item is usually demonstrated by a disdain for one’s victims.
I’ll be going through the list and providing real life examples which includes John’s very own written words. How else can a guy beat his best friend to a bloody pulp just because his best friend received a text message from his ex-girlfriend, who happens to be Johnny’s aunt (mother’s sister), that said two simple words that everyone says to everyone else, every year. “MERRY CHRISTMAS” if he isn’t sick in the head? I’ll have that story for you too.
With all my love,
No more secrets. No more lies. What was it you told me? The truth shall set us free? It isn’t going to set you free. It is going to get you locked up where you belong.