THE LIE: “Her 20 year old lives with me because of her actions…Her own son has nothing nice to say about her.”
THE THREAT: “He’s working with me now and we are going to put you in jail.”
THE TRUTH: My son lived with John because of my son’s own actions. My son says many good things about me.
My son has a drug problem. That’s what happens when children are raised with an abusive, drug dealing step-father who provides the children with drugs. My son was using drugs to cover up the sorrows of his childhood. I was trying to help him get clean. Each time he began withdrawals, he would damage things in my home. I still have damages to repair. He was arrested for throwing a socket through the rear passenger window on my car. He scared me. I asked him to leave and he refused. John and I exchanged text messages. I asked for help. John declined to help me. John told me jail was best for him.
[ Sunday, June 08, 2014 10:08:16 AM ] John Jaramillo (+15202496898): What’s the deal with Ralph? R u ok?
[ Sunday, June 08, 2014 10:50:56 AM ] Me: No
[ Sunday, June 08, 2014 10:51:19 AM ] John Jaramillo (+15202496898): What happen?
[ Sunday, June 08, 2014 10:57:23 AM ] Me: He needs a new place to live. I can’t help him on my own.
[ Sunday, June 08, 2014 10:58:17 AM ] John Jaramillo (+15202496898): He needs more than that! Fuck I’m sorry!!!
[ Sunday, June 08, 2014 10:59:32 AM ] Me: What he needs, I can’t get him. There’s no one else to help. He’s probably going to jail today. Soon as I can make the phone call.
[ Sunday, June 08, 2014 11:00:25 AM ] Me: I have no other options.
[ Sunday, June 08, 2014 11:01:18 AM ] John Jaramillo (+15202496898): I hate to say but jail probably doing some good
[ Sunday, June 08, 2014 2:44:00 PM ] Me: We were in the garage. He was falling asleep. I suggested he go to be. He said he should smash all the windows out of my car for giving him such a shitty childhood. He picked up a heavy socket and threw it at the window of the back door.
[ Sunday, June 08, 2014 2:44:00 PM ] Me:
[ Sunday, June 08, 2014 2:47:05 PM ] John Jaramillo (+15202496898): Damn that’s so fucked up! Sorry it’s been hard with the kids! Wish they wouldn’t take it so hard. Life does go on. Hope things get better!
[ Sunday, June 08, 2014 2:49:11 PM ] Me: He won’t leave on his own. I don’t know if they’ll keep him in jail either though. Criminal damage of private property is a class 1 misdemeanor.
[ Sunday, June 08, 2014 2:51:06 PM ] Me: Do you want to be there when I have them come get him? He’s locked in his room.
[ Sunday, June 08, 2014 2:51:57 PM ] John Jaramillo (+15202496898): U have to put him out. Like u let him in. Not trying to be mean! U tried
[ Sunday, June 08, 2014 2:53:02 PM ] Me: I have to have him physically removed.
[ Sunday, June 08, 2014 2:53:09 PM ] Me: I did try.
[ Sunday, June 08, 2014 2:54:08 PM ] John Jaramillo (+15202496898): I know u did. Theirs nothing u can do when u let them make their own decisions and u stand by them. They made the mistakes now they should have to pay for them. U did your part!:)
[ Sunday, June 08, 2014 8:22:09 PM ] Me: What do you mean they? It’s just Ralph.
[ Sunday, June 08, 2014 8:22:40 PM ] John Jaramillo (+15202496898): Well I seen Cynthia’s report card. Not happy about that. But none of my business. I know. Sorry
[ Sunday, June 08, 2014 8:27:20 PM ] Me: Not sure how you saw it. She slipped. She’s doing better now. You were part the reason she slipped. Anywho, she’s fine.
[ Sunday, June 08, 2014 8:31:12 PM ] John Jaramillo (+15202496898): Ok sure all me. Yup. Figures I’m to blame. All I know is she had people looking for her here about something I had nothing to do with. She messed up all in her own. I didn’t tell her to do what she did. I would of wanted to leave too!! Hope she doesn’t make the same mistakes she made here over their. Anyways sorry to bring it up.
[ Sunday, June 08, 2014 8:32:32 PM ] Me: I did say all you. Relax.
[ Sunday, June 08, 2014 8:33:03 PM ] Me: She’s only visiting there. She’s coming back.
[ Sunday, June 08, 2014 8:35:28 PM ] John Jaramillo (+15202496898): That’s cool! Some time away is good!
It took me until the following evening to be able to even make the call. That was one of the hardest, most gut-wrenching calls I have ever had to make. I have a daughter and a younger son and I have to look out for their welfare. The house was being damaged, possessions were being stolen, I had to kick a guy out of my house at 3:00AM when he came in to steal something and my older son got into an argument with him because he felt he was owed money. I requested the police take him to the hospital for an evaluation and to get him help. They said thry would, but they never did.
After he was released from his arrest, he came back home and stayed with me for a while longer. He could not stay clean so he could not stay here. He went and stayed with John for a short time until John kicked him out and he had no where else to go. He was living homeless. I spoke with my Dad who agreed to help. As soon as my son said he’d go stay with Grandpa, I took him to my Dad’s. My Dad has been rehabbing him and he has been clean since then.
When one of your biggest fears is checking on your son and finding him deceased due to an overdose and no one will help you help him, then you can judge me for having my son arrested.
I do not have to put up with any type of abuse from anyone, no matter what.