Legal Harassment

While researching how to shut down the ex from his never-ending whining and crying to the courts about not getting what he wants – like a two-year-old throwing a major tantrum crying to his mommy – I came across this article.  I urge you to click on it and read through it.  Should you ever find yourself in such a predicament, having some inkling of what it’s all about will help keep you sane.

Abuse Sanctuary – Abusive Stalking Using The Courts

Well, what do you know.  It’s a perfect fit for the situation at hand.  Unfortunately, these actions can cause a lot of harm – especially financially.  My budget is tight as it is.  Because I am not a lazy unemployed drug dealer like he is, I do not qualify for waivers of court fees nor can I afford to pay somebody to write my documents for me.  I pay my filing fees, for copy and print services, for legal advise when I need it, and when I pay for these things, I have to pull money from regular household expenses.  Recently, there were three court cases he had me in.  I was successful in having one dismissed.  These other two will go through to the end.  That means more missed work, more filing fees, more copy and print fees, and more paperwork to keep me away from spending time with my son.  This is harassment.  My son and I now have to move because court costs have caused me to fall to far behind on rent and other bills.  I’m close to losing my job because my employer wants somebody who can be here full time.  I can’t say that I blame him.  This has been going on for a year and a half now.  My patience is wearing thin and I’m sure my employer’s patience has worn out completely.

But!  Guess what?

I’M STILL STANDING and I AM STILL ‘RUNNING MY MOUTH.’

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Saved by the Grace of God,

Mel

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Liar Liar Pants on Fire

Liar, Liar Pants on Fire.

  There are FIVE different emotional abuses in these two posts.  You wonder why my son doesn’t trust you, JJ?  You will know on Friday.  I will not allow you to cause my child any harm.  We have been over this before.  If you want a visit, you already know what you have to do.  You would rather spend your money on drugs and alcohol than on visiting with my son.  In case you’ve forgotten, review the You-Tube under this posting.  Thank you and have a nice day.
Because every fucking thing he said was bullshit.
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Devon said he is not falling for the truck trick.  Each child has “had” their first vehicle in JJ’s possession and each child has had their first vehicle sold by JJ before they even had a chance to drive it.  Just like JJ got a dirt bike for Devon.  JJ and Devon were going to fix it up nice and Devon was going to learn how to ride.  JJ sold it on Craigslist.  Deven never did learn to ride.  At least my boyfriend worked on it a little with Devon and got it running.  That’s more than JJ has ever done.

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He’s made 3 child support payments, December, January, and March, since the day the divorce was finalized on July 18, 2014. He can visit with Devon anytime he pleases. All he has to do is call Milly and schedule the visit. Milly will call me and I will be sure to have Devon there.  He loves to say I won’t let him see his son, but the truth is that he doesn’t want to see his son.  He just wants to complain about not seeing him.  The last visit I arranged with him and for him, he found something more important to do:  get drunk and get in a fight.

Love,
Mel

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Grace

Has the Truth Ever Passed Though Your Lips?

This is my son, Johnny.  Now, I did not give birth to him.  He has an Angel Momma.  I did watch him take his first steps and hear him speak his first words and I love him ever so much.  Johnny has a special story that he and I will be telling.  I wish I had seen him before he was shipped off to his “dad’s” parent’s house way back when.  You see his black eyes in his first two baby pictures?  Those were neither the first bruises nor the last that his “dad” inflicted on him.  See, His “dad” is a Narcissistic Sociopath.  People like that place roles on the children in the home.  Johnny’s role was the Scapegoat.  The following defines scapegoating and how Johnny was treated in the home with the encouragement of his “dad”.  Why?  I have a theory.  I will tell you all about it during the telling of Johnny’s story.  This is enough for the moment.  There is so much more and still many questions that we, Johnny and I, would like answered.  Johnny deserves answers.  Johnny did not deserve to be beaten so badly and so often.  Who gives a baby a black eye?  My Narcissistic Sociopathic Ex-Husband does without even blinking an eye.

I will be laying it all out.  Why John Jaramillo detests Johnny so much, what John Jaramillo robbed Johnny from not just Johnny, but a nice group of people and how resilient Johnny is in overcoming such an abusive past.  There are parts of this story that are sick and twisted.  I love you Johnny.  Be sure to let me know if I should add or change anything. ❤  We will go slow.  One piece at a time.  This is a pretty good introduction, you think?  You are amazing.  Don’t ever forget that.  You are none of those things he said you were.  He was projecting himself onto you.  That means he saw you as a mirror and everything he said was meant for himself.  He simply is incapable of accepting criticism, blame, or anything else that shows who he really is.

Scapegoating. 

“Scapegoating is a serious family dysfunctional problem with one member of the family or a social group being blamed for small things, picked on and constantly put down. In scapegoating, one of the authority figures has made a decision that somebody in the family has to be the bad guy. The mother or father makes one child bad and then looks for things (sometimes real, but most often imagined) that are wrong.” (Lynn Namaka, “Scapegoating“)

Often, the emotional child abuser will encourage, through his or her actions and treatment of the scapegoat, the other children to also pick on the scapegoat, so that the scapegoat has no allies in the family. ~ The Invisible Scar


Narcissistic Sociopaths believe they are unique, yet they are all the same.  They all have the same traits and patterns of behavior.  John Jaramillo has every single trait of the Narcissistic Sociopath including:

Lack of remorse or guilt. A lack of feelings or concern for the losses, pain, and suffering of victims; a tendency to be unconcerned, dispassionate, coldhearted, and unempathic. This item is usually demonstrated by a disdain for one’s victims.

I’ll be going through the list and providing real life examples which includes John’s very own written words.  How else can a guy beat his best friend to a bloody pulp just because his best friend received a text message from his ex-girlfriend, who happens to be Johnny’s aunt (mother’s sister), that said two simple words that everyone says to everyone else, every year.  “MERRY CHRISTMAS”  if he isn’t sick in the head?  I’ll have that story for you too.

With all my love,

Mel

JJ,

No more secrets. No more lies. What was it you told me?  The truth shall set us free?  It isn’t going to set you free.  It is going to get you locked up where you belong.

Toodles.

“Now you can answer to Social Security.”

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Oh look.  Somebody is angry.  I don’t recall what he was angry about that time.  I am curious to know what I did.  I will have to match the date with something I said or did that caused him Narcissistic Injury.  I think I am going to do this one a little differently.  I will go line by line.

To the tweeker!!!

I laughed when I saw that you felt the need to use three exclamation points.  One would have had the same effect without making you look ignorant.

And all those exclamation marks you notice?  Three?  A sure sign of someone who wears underpants on his head. (Terry Pratchett, Maskerade)

I am curious to know when you decided to come up with the tweeker lie.  Would you care to fill me in?  I didn’t think so.  Shall we discuss this?  Let’s make a comparison chart.

  JJ Mel
Have you ever been drug tested? Hair or urine?
How many times have you been tested?
Of those, how many did you fail/pass?
Ever been charged and found guilty of a drug related offense?
Ever been to prison for drugs?
Are you a drug dealer?
Are you employed?
How long have you been with your current employer?
Are your finances in order, bills not only paid but paid on time?
Yes, Both
Dozens
Failed all, passed none
Yes
Yes
Yes
No
n/a
No
Yes, Both
Dozens
Failed none, passed all
No
No
No
Yes
10 years
Yes

So let’s see….who has more indicators of being a tweeker, you or me?

Not done screwing with me yet? OK!

I am not sure I understand the question.  It is not really in question form.  If you mean by telling the truth about who you are and what you’ve done then I am “screwing you”, then the answer would be no.  I am not done yet.  I will not be done for a while longer.  Once you are securely behind bars where monsters like you belong, then I will stop and let Bubba take over.  Until then, I will continue telling the world who you really are.

Now you can answer to Social Security.

What would I have to answer to Social Security for?

I was not pursuing that.

You mean you had not thought of filing a false report against me with Social Security until now.

But now you want to start more.

Are you talking about me screwing with you again by exposing you to the world?  I never stopped.

Ok you got it!

Do you really think your silly little threats have any affect on me anymore?  You’ve reported me multiple times to multiple agencies already yet you still haven’t got a clue.  What possesses you to believe that you can file a false report without any evidence but your word, which means shit by the way, and they are simply going to believe you when all of the documentation says otherwise?

Hope you have fun dealing with the Federal Government!!! Smile

They are already aware of your antics.  Do you remember the Request for Production of Documents I sent to you?  I filed that Request in court as well.  I have also forwarded it to Social Security and the Bank.  A fraud investigation was initialized and that is why your father is now rep payee.  I love the way your idiot friends believe the bullshit that pours out of your mouth.  Here is the request I filed followed by the conversation we had regarding this very issue.  Enjoy the rest of your day.

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Raping Him for Child Support, the Sequel

Because every fucking thing he said was bullshit.

If you read the first article regarding Child Support and John’s profession, then you saw his ‘business card’ for ‘JJ’s Automotive Repair and Restoration’ which reflects him being “ASE Certified”.  He is not computer literate and had me design and print those cards out for him.  The information on the cards was provided to me by him. How did I not know he wasn’t a real mechanic?  I didn’t know anything about certifications and never thought to check his credentials.  I trusted him and his story regarding certification was the same regardless of who he told it to.  Not one of his friends nor his parents said anything different nor did anyone correct him while he was teling his lies  I took him at his word.  My word is golden and I used to expect everyone else’s to be golden to them as well.  I no longer hold those expectations.I have also learned that ASE Certifications come in different areas and must be renewed each year.  You must hold certifications in all areas to be qualified as

I have also learned that ASE Certifications come in different areas and must be renewed each year.  You must hold certifications in all areas to be qualified as ASE Master Certified Automotive Technician.  I have seen Brian’s credentials and he has explained it all to me.  He has passed all of the tests and keeps his certifications up to date. Why would John lie about his education and profession?  You’ll have to ask him why he continues to lie about his education and profession.  In his own handwriting, on this ‘Fiduciary Statement in Support of Affifavit”, an official Government document used to certify him as his uncle’s fidicuary, he writes that he has a GED and he is indeed a mechanic.  On the back of the form, he signs his name under the statement, “I CERTIFY THAT the statements on this form are true and correct to the best of my knowledge and belief.”  It also asks about imprisonment and his answer was yet another lie.  He lists Buena High School as if he graduated and Cochise College as part of his education on his Facebook page.  According to Dr. Vaknin, this lying behavior is a classic Narcissistic Trait, which is number one on his list.

1. Feels grandiose and self-important (e.g., exaggerates accomplishments, talents, skills, contacts, and personality traits to the point of lying, demands to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements) ~ Dr. Sam Vaknin, author of Malignant Self-Love

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From “What You Need To Know” by Mary M. Alward, Inside the Abuser’s Mind, we learn that they blame others for their failure to succeed and they lie about anything and everything, regardless of importance.  They also believe their own lies but if you catch them in one and call them on it, the suffer Narcissistic Injury and try to lie themselves out of the lie or verbally assault you.  They cannot handle critisism at all.  That is one of the main differences between the Narcissist and the Narcissistic Sociopath.

Fantasies of Success
Abusers believe that they would be famous and rich if the victim and other people weren’t holding them back. Because he believes his failure in life is due to others, he feels he is justified in retaliating in any way he can, including physical and emotional abuse. He belittles, berates and puts others down, including the victim, to make himself feel more powerful.

Lying
Most abusers are liars. They lie to manipulate their victim by controlling information. They also lie to keep their victim, and others, off balance psychologically. This enables the abuser to gain control of every situation.

Glorification
Abusers, both men and women, think of themselves as independent, self-sufficient, superior and strong. If someone criticizes them or says something that causes them to feel insulted, the feeling will cause them to react violently toward their victim. This is the only outlet that they know to use to quell feelings of inadequacy.

John refused to particiate in the divorce. He had plenty of time to file a response and make his desires known, but he wanted it all his way without having to do any of the work.  He didn’t get it his way.  I failed to comply with his demands.  Unhappy with the outcome because he was ordered to pay child support and I was granted sole custody, John went into a Narcissistic rage. He shot threats and insults at me through text messages, one right after the other. He then began carrying out the threats. I had never seen that side of him before and that is when I realized he is capable of anything.  I went to the courthouse and obtained an Order of Protection against him.   His reaction to the final decree is yet another trait of the Narcissistic Sociopath.

Domination
Abusers are extremely dominating to the point that they want to control everything that the victim does. If they don’t get their way, they act like spoiled children. On top of that, they use threats to get what they want. If you allow your abuser to dominate you, you will lose your self respect.

Once he stopped raging, he paid paralegal “JoJo Aguilar” to draw up a document titled, “Request for Reconsideration, Request for Relief from Final Order and Request to Amend Decree of Dissolution of Marriage“. I enjoy making pictures to tell parts of the story and this is a perfect place for one.

Request for Reconsideration Number 9

The portion of my Response to his request that address his item number nine is long.  I tried to be short, but there is no way I could get all the information I have which disputes his claim into just a few lies.  I believe my response was a bit too wordy, but what’s done is done.  I will be posting the documents in full at a later date. Today, I am only focusing on the Child Support portion which is directly related to his education and proffession. My response, if you can read through it all, great.  If not, I completely understand.

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He did file a reply to my response, yet it was after we had the hearing for his Requests which made his filing moot.

JJs reply to my response

So what did John have to say when I called him out on lying about his education and proffession? He posted it on Facebook for the world to see.  “Who cares what I know and what I don’t know as long as the job gets done.”  My reply to him is, “I hate to break it to you, but if you don’t know, then when the job gets done, it’s not done right.  I’m pretty sure the people who you represent yourself to as an educated professional in the field of automotive mechanics care about what you do and do not know.  People do not enjoy being ripped off and they certainly do not enjo have to take their vehicles to be repaired after they already paid you to repair them.  The courts also care about what you do and do not know.  Had you not lied to me about all of it for our entire marriage, the child support worksheet would have been filled out differently.  Blame me all you want, but you are the party at fault and it is your lies that tripped you up.”

Following his statement about what he does and does not know, he writes that he is the one who is real in all this mess.  A real what is my question.  A real fraud?  Yes.  A real liar?  Asolutely.  He cannot claim to be real when everything that comes out of his mouth is a lie.  He is the epitomy of “FAKE“.  He states he has all the answers to everthing I am saying but he will not disclose them. Do you know what that type of ‘VAGUE’ behavior is?  It is another trait of the Narcissitic Sociopath.

Being Vague
Abusers think and speak vaguely to avoid their responsibilities. When asked why they are late or where they’ve been, answers will be vague. If their partners pursue the reason, the abuser becomes defensive and strikes out in order to remain in control of the situation.

Who cares what I know IM the one thats real I HAVE al the answers to everything shes saying

So what about that child support worksheet?  I followed the instructions based on the laws to fill it out.  For the arrears, his claim that I was awarded two years worth is false,  Arrears were dated back to February 2014, which was just after he moved out.  Why those fols he calls friends cannot see that his claims do not add up is beyond me.  He typically hangs out with the he feels are less intelligent than him or those he can manipulate easily.  Intelligent people are too much of a strugle for him to converse with.  Perhas they use words that he does not understand or perhaps they tire of his repetitive speak after a limited amount of time.  He cannot feel good about himself while conversing with those who are well-educated.  They make him feel stupid, which he is, but he doesn’t like to admit that little fact.  The truth is too hard for him to handle.  TRUTH HURTS.

Parents worksheet for child support original filed by petitioner

Child Support Arrears only to Feb 2014

Sorry guy.  I didn’t realize that everything you ever said was a lie and that you were so stupid and uneducated that you can’t hold down any type of job anywhere.  If you had been honest, there would’ve been nothing to fix.  Of course, I would’ve never moved in with you let alone procreated with you.

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Well, at least he is a Facebook Certified Mechanic.  It is just a short distance away from a Master ASE Certified Automotive Technician and a tad bit better than a Cracker Jacks Certified Mechanic, but if people accept his Facebook app credentials and are willing to risk having to fix their cars over and over again, then it is their perogative and their money to throw away or let him rip the off if they so wish.

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Have a most wonderful day and don’t forget to make somebod smile.  Love changes people.

Mel, Saved by God’s Grace

“Her own son has nothing nice to say about her!”

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THE LIE:  “Her 20 year old lives with me because of her actions…Her own son has nothing nice to say about her.”

THE THREAT:  “He’s working with me now and we are going to put you in jail.”

THE TRUTH:  My son lived with John because of my son’s own actions.  My son says many good things about me.

My son has a drug problem.  That’s what happens when children are raised with an abusive, drug dealing step-father who provides the children with drugs.  My son was using drugs to cover up the sorrows of his childhood.  I was trying to help him get clean. Each time he began withdrawals, he would damage things in my home.  I still have damages to repair.  He was arrested for throwing a socket through the rear passenger window on my car.  He scared me.  I asked him to leave and he refused.  John and I exchanged text messages.  I asked for help.  John declined to help me.  John told me jail was best for him.

[ Sunday, June 08, 2014 10:08:16 AM ] John Jaramillo (+15202496898):   What’s the deal with Ralph? R u ok?

[ Sunday, June 08, 2014 10:50:56 AM ] Me:   No

[ Sunday, June 08, 2014 10:51:19 AM ] John Jaramillo (+15202496898):   What happen?

[ Sunday, June 08, 2014 10:57:23 AM ] Me:   He needs a new place to live. I can’t help him on my own.

[ Sunday, June 08, 2014 10:58:17 AM ] John Jaramillo (+15202496898):   He needs more than that! Fuck I’m sorry!!!

[ Sunday, June 08, 2014 10:59:32 AM ] Me:   What he needs, I can’t get him. There’s no one else to help. He’s probably going to jail today. Soon as I can make the phone call.

[ Sunday, June 08, 2014 11:00:25 AM ] Me:   I have no other options.

[ Sunday, June 08, 2014 11:01:18 AM ] John Jaramillo (+15202496898):   I hate to say but jail probably doing some good

[ Sunday, June 08, 2014 2:44:00 PM ] Me:   We were in the garage. He was falling asleep. I suggested he go to be. He said he should smash all the windows out of my car for giving him such a shitty childhood. He picked up a heavy socket and threw it at the window of the back door.

[ Sunday, June 08, 2014 2:44:00 PM ] Me:  

[ Sunday, June 08, 2014 2:47:05 PM ] John Jaramillo (+15202496898):   Damn that’s so fucked up! Sorry it’s been hard with the kids! Wish they wouldn’t take it so hard. Life does go on. Hope things get better!

[ Sunday, June 08, 2014 2:49:11 PM ] Me:   He won’t leave on his own. I don’t know if they’ll keep him in jail either though. Criminal damage of private property is a class 1 misdemeanor.

[ Sunday, June 08, 2014 2:51:06 PM ] Me:   Do you want to be there when I have them come get him? He’s locked in his room.

[ Sunday, June 08, 2014 2:51:57 PM ] John Jaramillo (+15202496898):   U have to put him out. Like u let him in. Not trying to be mean! U tried

[ Sunday, June 08, 2014 2:53:02 PM ] Me:   I have to have him physically removed.

[ Sunday, June 08, 2014 2:53:09 PM ] Me:   I did try.

[ Sunday, June 08, 2014 2:54:08 PM ] John Jaramillo (+15202496898):   I know u did. Theirs nothing u can do when u let them make their own decisions and u stand by them. They made the mistakes now they should have to pay for them. U did your part!:)

[ Sunday, June 08, 2014 8:22:09 PM ] Me:   What do you mean they? It’s just Ralph.

[ Sunday, June 08, 2014 8:22:40 PM ] John Jaramillo (+15202496898):   Well I seen Cynthia’s report card. Not happy about that. But none of my business. I know. Sorry

[ Sunday, June 08, 2014 8:27:20 PM ] Me:   Not sure how you saw it. She slipped. She’s doing better now. You were part the reason she slipped. :/ Anywho, she’s fine.

[ Sunday, June 08, 2014 8:31:12 PM ] John Jaramillo (+15202496898):   Ok sure all me. Yup. Figures I’m to blame. All I know is she had people looking for her here about something I had nothing to do with. She messed up all in her own. I didn’t tell her to do what she did. I would of wanted to leave too!! Hope she doesn’t make the same mistakes she made here over their. Anyways sorry to bring it up. 

[ Sunday, June 08, 2014 8:32:32 PM ] Me:   I did say all you. Relax.

[ Sunday, June 08, 2014 8:33:03 PM ] Me:   She’s only visiting there. She’s coming back.

[ Sunday, June 08, 2014 8:35:28 PM ] John Jaramillo (+15202496898):   That’s cool! Some time away is good!

It took me until the following evening to be able to even make the call.  That was one of the hardest, most gut-wrenching calls I have ever had to make.  I have a daughter and a younger son and I have to look out for their welfare.  The house was being damaged, possessions were being stolen, I had to kick a guy out of my house at 3:00AM when he came in to steal something and my older son got into an argument with him because he felt he was owed money.  I requested the police take him to the hospital for an evaluation and to get him help.  They said thry would, but they never did.

After he was released from his arrest, he came back home and stayed with me for a while longer.  He could not stay clean so he could not stay here.  He went and stayed with John for a short time until John kicked him out and he had no where else to go.  He was living homeless.  I spoke with my Dad who agreed to help.  As soon as my son said he’d go stay with Grandpa, I took him to my Dad’s.  My Dad has been rehabbing him and he has been clean since then.

When one of your biggest fears is checking on your son and finding him deceased due to an overdose and no one will help you help him, then you can judge me for having my son arrested.

I do not have to put up with any type of abuse from anyone, no matter what.

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Cooking the Books – Smear Campaign

THE INJURY:  On July 18, 2014, my Petition for Dissolusion of Marriage with Child was granted and the Decree was signed.  John was more than aware that it was coming, he had been ushing me during the first half of the year to hurry up and finish it.  He just wanted it done.  I told him he needed to file a response to the Petition, but he did not want to.  He reviewed the paperwork BEFORE I filed it and was in agreement with it – at first.  When he began to disagree, I told him to file his grievances in his response.  He never filed anything.  The Divorce was granted by default.  Two days later, he returned our son to my home and picked up his copy of the decree.  NARCISSISTIC INJURY!  I was awarded sole custody-required by law, and child support based on his potential earnings-according to law.  I’m unsure if that was the cause of the injury or if it was actually being divorced that caused it.  I have a feeling he never thought I would actually get it finalized and maybe he had a chance to get me back.  After learning all I have learned about the physical, mental, emotional, sexual, and other abuses of the children carried out by him, there was not even a smidgeon of a chance.  The smear campaign had already begun multiple years before, yet I was not aware of anything going on.  I started becoming aware in late 2013 and by March 2014, I was well aware of the beginnings of the attacks against me.  I have been dealing with his relentless smear campaign against me ever since.

THE LIE:  “She’s been cooking the books for [Organization I work for] for years, paying personal bills…$3,000 Disneyland trip paid with [Org] money,….”

THE THREAT:  “You won’t have a job by the time I’m through with you!  I’m going to the courts and telling them you steal from your job and I’ll testify to it to put you in prison!  That includes taking down the Company you work for!”

THE TRUTH:  I have taken out employee loans over the years to pay some household bills because JOHN refused to get a job and help with the family’s financial responsibilities and would spend the money set aside for bills on drugs instead.  He once took out a loan on my truck to pay off a drug debt and never pain the loan.  They took my truck because of his failure to pay.

THE EVIDENCE:  John’s threats to me in text messages, John’s statement to the accountant’s office (my employments tax accountant), response from my employer regarding John’s allegations, my promissory note detailing weekly repayments deducted directly from my paycheck and John’s statements posted on various Facebook pages.

He says he is going to sue me for slander.  He does not know the meaning of the word.  He can ‘slander’ me but I cannot tell the truth about him.  He believes he is above the law.  He attempted to have me arrested for telling the truth on Facebook.  He literally called the police and attempted to file a report against me for talking about him on Facebook.  I am also waiting for Social Security to contact me regarding him reporting me to them.  For what, I have no clue, but I am sure he has made up a pretty good story and that I have in one of my evidence boxes proof that he filed another false report against me.  False report number 12 or 20, I don’t know.  I stopped counting.

Rules
Abusers feel they are superior to others and don’t have to follow the rules of society. This is also the attitude of hundreds of criminals in prisonsworld wide. Inmates often believe that while other inmates are guilty of their crimes that they aren’t. Abusers feel it is always their partners who need counseling and that they can take care of their life without help or support from others. ~ What you need to know, Mary M. Alward


The anger of narcissists, on the other hand, can be more demeaning. Their criticism evolves from their conviction that others don’t meet their lofty standards–or worse, aren’t letting them get their own way. “Narcissistic injuries,” or wounds to the ego, often pave the way for narcissistic rages, which can be passive-aggressive or planned out, as well as sudden. They are above you and you have displeased them and probably deserve punishment they will dole out. ~ Blame-Storms and Rages

Of course it has to be my fault for following the law.  There’ s no way it could have anything to do with him beating and molesting the children or having all the children permanently removed from his care and custody by Child Protective Services (he filed a false report against me to them, too, on the same day as the report to the tax accaountant) or most certainly not his being stripped of all parental rights to three-fourths of his children.

My ex is making me who I am right now. ~ John Jaramillo

Regards,

~Mel, Saved by God’s Grace

A few of the many texts he sent
A few of the many texts he sent

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